Suggestions for Healing the Hurt
Dark Clouds Shall Pass
Suggestions for Healing the Hurt is an article that was originally written by Victor Parachin of Tulsa, Oklahoma. I really find this helpful and I’ve shared it with a very close friend who have lost his loved ones. I’d like to share this to everyone, most especially to those who have experienced or are experiencing the same thing. I know it’s easier said than done, but here are eleven suggestions for Healing the Hurt, that could at least serve as a guiding light for those in the dark.
Choose to Heal. From the very beginning, make a decision that you will heal — that you will not only recover from this loss but also be a better person because of it.
Find caring people. Establish a network of family, friends, neighbors, colleagues, and people in grief support group. Share your sorrow with these people. If someone offers to run an errand for you, accept the offer graciously.
Give yourself time to heal. Expect that recovery will take longer than you think. Grief recovery takes about two years for most people. While some have experienced peace within a year or less, don’t feel there’s something wrong with you if it takes longer.
Resume your daily routines. Go back to work after a few days. Keep up your involvement in civic and religious organizations. These are important links that will lessen the risk of your becoming isolated.
Trust God for help. Some grief-stricken people conclude that God has abandoned them. Meet this temptation with bible verses that describe God’s help and healing. A good example is Psalm 146:8 “The Lord lifts up those who are bowed down.”
Keep in touch with your doctor. Research shows that grief makes people susceptible to physical illness as well as to sleep disturbances, and eating problems. If you experience any of these, consult your doctor right away.
Accept your feelings. The loss of a loved one often generates intense feelings of anger, despair, depression, and loneliness– to name a few. Don’t be alarmed. These emotions are all a natural part of the grieving process. Most people who lose a loved one experience them. The intensity will diminish with time.
Forget “normal” for a while. Death turns life upside down for the surviving family members. With funeral arrangements to make, legal matters to attend to, and insurance forms to complete, you can expect that your daily life will not follow the usual, familiar patterns.
Stay away from certain people. Avoid those who are judgmental about your grieving style. Stay away from people who minimize your loss with trite cliches such as “You’ll get over it,” “It was for the best,” and “Be glad it’s over.”
Delay major changes. Unless it’s absolutely necessary, don’t move, quit your job, make new investment, sell part of the estate, etc. Wait at least six months; a year is better. Then you’ll have a better perspective on what needs to be changed.
Know when to get help. If crying spells, social withdrawal, and otehr symptoms of grief persists beyond one year, seek help of a qualified counselor. Your doctor or your minister; priest, or rabbi can help you find one who’s right for you.
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I could really make use of this for all the things going wrong in my life. Thanks for this list.
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